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sexual pitfalls many couples observe when prone to role plays

It doesn't matter if you are straight or gay. If you are one who indulges in role play,  these are some issues that you might observe.



One partner might be secretly or overtly disgruntled about the frequency or content of lo…


It doesn't matter if you are straight or gay. If you are one who indulges in role play,  these are some issues that you might observe.



One partner might be secretly or overtly disgruntled about the frequency or content of lovemaking, leading to resentment or lack of enthusiasm for other aspects of living together. In straight couples, I’ve seen this more in men than in women, partly because of the way men are typically hard-wired, and partly because of the different roles men and women adopt or are assigned in many marriages. In gay couples, too, though, there’s often one person who wants to have sex more frequently than the other. Indeed, the great friction in all couples, in my opinion, is that the other person, being a person, is a constant source of frustration and entropy, because you can imagine your partner doing exactly what you would like and of course it doesn’t happen that way. If you don’t actively appreciate being married to a human and not a robot, you can build up quite a lot of resentment. Still, the person who wants sex more often needs a strategy for getting sexual needs and desires met, while the other person needs a strategy for meeting the partner’s needs that doesn’t feel like a capitulation.

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